WHEN WE UNDERSTAND PEOPLE, WE CAN LOVE THEM MORE

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By Nick Ralls

I seek to get to know people in my life so much better… when I understand and really know people I can love them more and judge them far less. And when I get to know others I can learn so much about myself because everyone in my life reflects an aspect of me. Some aspects need loving, some need healing and some just need to be.

HOW well do we know the people in our life?

As with everything, knowledge is power.

And when we know people well we feel empowered… we feel better connected.

So much of our disillusionment and disappointment comes about when we superficially make judgments about people… put them on pedestals which they bound to fall off…decide they are this or that.

But if we wish deeper connection with someone and really want to love them for who they are and not so much about what they initially reflect in us then we need to go deeper.

We need to find out about them.

We need to feel what it is like to be in their shoes.

And we need to include them in our lives.

The world is full of people who do not want to know others.

This gives their ego an inflated sense of power.

This gives their ego protection.

But it is all about superiority and fear that knowing someone might bring about a love of them.

It can be quite convenient for our leaders to define people by their labels.

It can be quite safe to put people in their own little box.

So we can shake hands with this person, hug this person but not this one or that.

But the more we get to know people the more we can see that they are really just like us.

We can see why they took this particular path and why they did not live up to our expectations… or did not appear to shine their light in the way we would have liked them to have done.

When we really get to know people we can love them for who they are… we can support them in what they are trying to do and hold their hand when they most need it to be held.

With great understanding comes great love.

Without understanding there can be little unconditional love… it is just a matter of liking or disliking.

And yet those we would appear to dislike are often those in most need of our love and understanding.

Those we are less likely to invite to the party, to include in our lives, are often the hearts that are most likely to pour out the love we so much seek.

It is in caring for people that our jewel is polished.

It is in knowing and understanding people that our diamond sparkles more.

And it is when we love people no matter what that we can become a gem in the world.

No one is not deserving of love.

No one should be deprived of love.

No one should be shunned, avoided, segregated or given up on.

Everyone has the potential to change from sitting in the grubby murky coal pit into the diamond mine where all sparkles and all glistens in beauty.

And, yes, everyone gets there in the end.

Everyone… yes, everyone… returns to love at the end of play… at the end of the day.

So let us get to know others… and in getting to know them we learn so much about ourselves.

I am so honoured that you are allowing me to get to know you better… because when I get to know you better I so much learn about myself.

Each person reflects some aspect of ourselves… some aspects we need to know and love better, some that we need to heal and some we need to simply allow.

When we get to know people better our love deepens.

And so do we.

So dear and beautiful friend… do open your heart and share what is going on for you on this subject or any subject

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Read more | Comments (0) | March 12th, 2010

MAKING LOVE OUR REACTION

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by Nick Ralls

I make my reaction to people and experiences from the loving place in me that is also in you…I become aware of how I am reacting to the outside world. When I take decisions and make choices, I ask myself: What would love do now?

JUST how do we react to people and situations that crop up in our life?

So much of human reaction is based on counter attack, fear and misunderstanding.

So often we bite back, fight back or retreat and resent.

But when we decide to make love our response whatever is thrown at us and whoever does the throwing we are able to stay in love.

If we believe in God let us consider how God would react to whatever we might hurl at the universe.

Would not the divine see the fear and frailty of those who lash out… would the divine not have compassion… would the divine not be able to forgive while not condoning… would the divine not understand just how low people can behave when they are in a place that is not aligned to the loving essence that is deep within their heart.

And so we might need to shape our own reaction to people and life’s events from a loving prospective.

When we learn and acknowledge our divinity we can come from that place of love that is really and truly us.

And we can move away from that place that seems to have separated itself from unity, harmony and joy.

Likewise, we can help others to move back to love rather than push them further into the abyss.

When we show loving understanding, attempt healing and teach others love then they can take steps to fulfill their divine potential rather than home in on the label that takes them away from love.

When we react in an unloving way, one based on revenge, one based on retaliation and one based on ego then we also drag ourselves to that negative energy level.

But when we make the conscious decision to make our reaction a loving one, we can remain elevated and at one with all there is while accepting that someone who is drowning does not have to drag us down into the watery depths with them.

So with every decision we take and every choice we make, let us consider: What would love do now?

Indeed, what would love do?

And if our reaction in words and actions to others comes from that place of love that we all share then we experience the bliss of being divine.

Because the divine resides in heaven.

The part of us that attempts separation from the divine steps out of heaven into the fear based zones of human daily life.

So when someone speaks to us in an unloving way, let us come back at them with love.

Let us accept that the words spoken or written are not about us… but all about the person delivering them.

So when someone acts in an unloving way let us have compassion for their plight… for the hurt they are exacting on themselves as they also do it to others.

So if unloving experiences come along, let us provide loving reactions. Because loving reactions heal both ourselves, others and the world at large.

We are at choice always.

Do we want to react in a way that take us out of love?

Or do we want to always make love our reaction?

Love can solve all problems

Love can heal all wounds.

Love can repair relationships.

Let us speak love, do love and become love>

So dear and beautiful friend.. do open your heart and share what is going on for you on this subject or any subject

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Read more | Comments (0) | March 1st, 2010

AS I LOVE OTHERS FOR WHO THEY ARE, I LOVE MYSELF FOR WHO I AM

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As I love others, despite the way they behave, I am also healing and understanding aspects of myself that I might also feel uncomfortable with. All the people in my life are mirrors, reflecting back aspects of me and I need to love everyone so that all parts of me can be healed through loving care.

NEVER be selective about who you give your love to.

Love everybody.

Yes… everybody!

Who said it was easy? Sometimes it isn’t. But the most important thing is that we extend love to all.. particularly those who we might find it most hard to love but are in so much need of it for sure.

So many of us pick and choose those people we want to give our attention to, who we want in our circle of friends and close acquaintances, our significant other, our family.

But to restrict love is also to restrict love to all aspects of ourselves.

Because all people in the world… all people who cross our path and come into our life are reflecting some part of us.

And they might well be reflecting some part of us that needs to be healed.

So give love to the person who stands aloof or is different or puts up those forbidding barriers.

Give love to the person who is judgmental or condescending.

Give love to the person who does not agree with you or even goes so far as to challenge you for who you are.

And give love to the person who is clearly at odds with you.

Because in loving the person who does not connect well, you are giving love and healing to the part of you that finds it hard to connect with certain people… perhaps authoritarian figures.

And in loving the person who casts judgment you are give warm healing to that part of you which sets you apart, considers yourself better or lesser than others.

And giving love to the person who is conflict with you brings understanding that part of you which is in conflict with yourself.

So someone in your life has gone off the rails… has behaved in a way that you do not approve of. We all know those who have upset the applecart.

But wake up… there is part of you that is off the rails.

Part of you might be glued to some addiction, to some destructive mode of conduct, to something that does not serve you or the world.

And when you love another for who they are despite what they might do as they struggle through life, as we all surely do at times, you are also healing and love that part of you which is also struggling.

Let’s face it… as human beings we all have the same emotions, feelings, fears and foibles.

Yes, all of us.

And we are connected into this great energy gestalt of which we are part of and so every aspect of every aspect of every person in the world is also an aspect of us.

OK some aspects might be subdued… some might be healed and therefore we are not as dangerous as other people… but all aspects do rear their heads in our thoughts if not our actions and loving action changes that thought into a better one that serves us.

We all suffer destructive thoughts… even if we do not follow them up with actions.

And we all need this healing so that when one of those ill serving thoughts flicks into our mind we can switch it quickly into a loving one which will not cause us to burn with rage, beat ourselves up or have any potency in our consciousness.

That is how you and I change this great energy gestalt one person at a time towards love, harmony and peace and make the world a safer place for us all.

But we need to love people…. love them anyway however obnoxious or foul they might seem to us at certain times if not for most of the time.

And we just need to know and accept that those in a fearful space will behave in a fearful and disrespecting way.

There is no rocket science about that.

However, those who take our hand of love can be healed as much as ourselves when we stretch out that hand to them.

Be the bridge of love in people’s lives.

And see how your life changes in the process.

That’s the pay back.

It is the universe’s way of showing you that all the good you do in the world to others is also done to you.

Those who might appear the hardest and the trickiest to love are the ones in most need of it.

Just as we find it so hard at times to love aspects of ourselves and yet those aspects are most in need of healing love.

Love all people… and see your life and the lives of others change.

So dear and beautiful friend… do open your heart and share what is going on for you on this subject or any subject

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Read more | Comments (0) | February 2nd, 2010